• Intentions to enter the path of tasawwuf and Sulook

    Question:

     

    I am interest to take bay’ah to a Shaikh, but I did not find any Shaikh in my area. I make a sin and then I repent, another time I do it again…it makes me stress….how can i change my situation? always do the same sin again and again….sometimes I feel really tired and feel ashamed….I pray, and wear a sunnah clothes but did this same sin again and again….I want to take bay’ah in chisti but it hard for me to find a Shaikh in my area….can you give your opinion and advice mufti sab….

     

     

    Answer:

     

     

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    Dear Brother in Islam,

     

     

     

    We commend your enthusiasm and sincere intentions to enter the path of Tasawwuf and Sulook. May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) grant you his Ma’rifat and elevate you to the rank and stage of Ihsan. Ameen.

     

     

     

    Islaah e Nafs (spiritual reformation of the soul) is the objective. Islaah (reformation) is Fardh (compulsory), whereas, Bay’at is Sunnah.

     

     

     

    Our Akabireen (elders) placed tremendous and significant importance to Islaah e Nafs. This is understood from the many incidents and narrations recorded in the books of the Akabireen (elders).

     

     

     

    Hadhrat Mufti Mahmood al- Hasan Gangohi (Rahmatullahi Alayhi), the late grand Mufti of India and spiritual mentor of many people around the World was asked as to why he had chosen Hadhrat Sheikh al- Hadeeth, Moulana Muhammed Zakariyya Saheb (Rahmatullah alayhi) as his Sheikh whereas there were so many other senior Masha’ikh alive at that time, Hadhrat replied that “When I sat in the Majlis (gathering) of Hadhrat Shaykh al-Hadeeth, my faults became more apparent to me. That is why I chose Hadhrat Sheikhul Hadeeth as my Sheikh”.

     

     

     

    We advise you to search for a Sheikh e Kamil with whom you have Munasabah (congeniality) and with whom you feel that your Islaah (spiritual reformation) will be made.

     

     

     

    In the meantime, we advise you to practice on the following daily practices:

     

     

     

    1. Perform the five Fardh (obligatory) Salaahs with Jamaat (congregation).

     

     

     

    2. Read some portion of the Qur’an daily.

     

     

     

    3. Be sensitive to the rights of others at all times.

     

     

     

    4. Read the following Tasbeehaat daily:

     

     

     

    4.1) Durood Shareef (100 times daily)

     

     

     

    4.2) Istighfaar (100times daily)

     

     

     

    4.3) Third Kalimah (100 times daily)

     

     

     

    When reciting the above Tasbeehaat, try as much as possible to focus the mind on the greatness and grandeur of Allah (Ta’ala) and if you can’t do that or find that difficult, then focus the mind on the waves of the ocean, a particular mountain, e.t.c so as to focus your mind on the Qudrat (power) of Allah (Ta’ala).

     

     

     

    5. Abstain from sin as far as possible. I f you do commit as sin, immediately make Tawba (repentance) to Allah (Ta’ala) for committing such a sin. Remember that one of the most significant ways of refraining from sin is by determination and resolute courage.

     

     

     

    We advise you to submit a report of your spiritual condition/state after every ten days so that we may advise you accordingly.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

  • Can tasawwuf be studied through books and texts?

    Question:

     

    I like very much to study the science of tassawwuf from shariah to sunnah with  true meaning.

     

     

    Answer:

     

     

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

     As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    Dear Brother in Islam,

     

     

     

    We commend you in your sincere intentions to study Tasawwuf. May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) grant you his Wilaayat and Ma’rifat. Aameen.

     

     

     

    The field of Tasawwuf is not a science or field which can be achieved and attained via the medium of books. The texts and manuals of Tasawwuf are meant to serve as guidelines and are not the main objective and crux of Tasawwuf. While one may gain some benefit in studying the texts and manuals of Tasawwuf, the real objective of Islaah e Nafs (spiritual reformation of the soul) will never be attained fully.

     

     

     

    By studying the texts and manuals of Tasawwuf without a qualified Shaykh e Kamil, there is a very great danger that one may become Maghroor (deceived) that one has attained the objective of Tasawwuf whereas one has not attained anything in reality.

     

     

     

    Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) says:

     

     

     

    (يا ايها الذين امنوا اتقوا الله و كونوا مع الصادقين (التوبة

     

     

     

    “Oh you who believe, adopt the fear of Allah and be in the company of the truthful ones.

     

     

    The above verse links the quality of Taqwa with that of the companionship of the truthful ones. This clearly advocates and demonstrates the importance of Suhbat (companionship of the pious). Allah (Ta’ala) has given us the prescription of Suhbat in order to develop Taqwa.

     

    The Sahabah (Radhiyallahu Anhu) were called Sahabah due to their Suhbat (companionship) with Rasullullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam). They could have been described by so many other good qualities that they possessed, but, they were described with the quality of Suhbat. This shows the importance of being in the companionship of the Sheikh e Kaamil.

     

    Hakeemul Ummah, Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) has written that “To sit in the companionship of the pious is Fardh” (Imdaad al – Fatawa, Baab al – Sulook, Vol.5, Pg.139)

     

    We advise one to search for a suitable Sheikh e Kaamil within close proximity as soon as possible so that you can derive maximum benefit from him. The objective is Islaah and one should see how that objective can be best attained.

     

    Hakeemul Ummah, Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) writes in his book entitled Kamaalaat e Ashrafiyyah that “The main thing is Islaah and always stay in the companionship/suhbat of the Ahlullah/friends of Allah (Ta’ala). (Kamaalaat e Ashrafiyyah, Pg.172, Suhbat e Ahlullah aur us ka fawa’id, Pg.53)

     

     

     

    In the meantime, we advise you to practice on the following daily practices:

     

     

     

    1. Perform the five Fardh Salaahs with Jamaat (congregation).

     

     

     

    2. Read some portion of the Qur’an daily.

     

     

     

    3. Be sensitive to the rights of others at all times.

     

     

     

    4. Read the following Tasbeehaat daily:

     

     

     

    4.1) Durood Shareef (100 times daily)

     

     

     

    4.2) Istighfaar (100times daily)

     

     

     

    4.3) Third Kalimah (100 times daily)

     

     

     

    When reciting the above Tasbeehaat, try as much as possible to focus the mind on the greatness and grandeur of Allah (Ta’ala) and if you can’t do that or find that difficult, then focus the mind on the waves of the ocean, a particular mountain, e.t.c so as to focus your mind on the Qudrat (power) of Allah (Ta’ala).

     

    5. Abstain from sin as far as possible. I f you do commit as sin, immediately make Tawba (repentance) to Allah (Ta’ala) for committing such a sin. Remember that one of the most significant ways of refraining from sin is by determination and resolute courage.

     

     

     

    We advise you to submit a report of your spiritual condition/state after every ten days so that we may advise you accordingly.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

  • I feel my heart is sealed and do not find any inspiration in worship or lectures, what should I do?

    Question:

     

    Assalamualaikum Mufti Saheb, I am really sick spiritually it feels like my heart is sealed. I don’t get inspired by any deeni talks or forms of ibaadat. I try to stay away from sinning. I don’t have any feelings. A long time ago I did do a really bad deed. I need Allah’s mercy to ask Allah for forgiveness from my heart but my heart feels sealed up. Please make dua for me and please advice me on what to do mufti saheb

     

    Answer:

     

     

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    A mother prohibits her child from going to play outside. The child slips away in the yard and begin enjoying himself playing in the sand and mud. After a while he comes back to his mother with his clothes and body covered up in mud. What will be the mother’s response? Will she leave like that saying I prohibited you from going outside but you did not listen? Or will she pick up the child, bath the child, put cream and powder for the child and dress him in clean clothes and then hug and kiss him?

     

     

     

    Allāh Ta`ālā prohibited us from soiling ourselves in the filth of sin. Due to our negligence we did not take precaution. If we return to Allāh Ta`ālā will He ever reject us from His infinite door of mercy and forgiveness? Allāh Ta`ālā is waiting for His sinful servants like us to return to Him. Every night Allāh Ta`ālā spreads His hand out so that the sinner of the day may repent and every day Allāh Ta`ālā spreads His hands out so that the sinner of the night might turn to Him and repent.

     

     

     

    {قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ (53)} [الزمر: 53]

     

    Say (on My behalf), ―O servants of Mine who have acted recklessly against their own selves, do not despair of Allah‘s mercy. Surely, Allah will forgive all sins. Surely, He is the One who is the Most-Forgiving, the Very-Merciful. [39:53]

     

     

     

    When a child is learning to walk or ride a bicycle many times he falls down. However, he does not remain on the floor. He immediately stands up and continues. If we commit a sin a thousand times, we should stand up and repent a thousand and one times. Be sure that Allāh Ta`ālā will most definitely forgive you. Be confident in the Most wonderful, Merciful, Loving, Kind and Compassionate creator you have. He loves you and waiting for you to come back to Him.

     

     

     

    Dear brother, you might have committed something in the past which you were not supposed to commit, but remember that Allāh Ta`ālā is waiting for you. Never be despondent of His mercy. Turn to Him, repent for the past and make a resolution to do your best for the future. Indeed you should be regretful and cry for the past but never let yourself be bogged down on the past.  Neither concern yourself too much of the future. Focus on the present, for this will be the past of tomorrow and pave the way for the future. Lamenting too much on the past will prevent you from progressing.

     

     

     

    Dear brother, allow me to suggest you to continue doing whatever good you are doing even though who do not feel any enjoyment or you feel as your heart is blocked. The object is the obedience of Allāh Ta`ālā and not any feelings.

     

     

     

    Be punctual on your five daily ṣalāh in the masjid with congregation. Set a time daily to recite the noble Qurān. Even if it just a few minutes. However, be sure to be punctual on your recitation. Keep good company. Try to attend the daily ta’līm and other activities taking place in the masjid. Allocate a time for du`ā. Try to join the tablīghi jamā`ah and join the gathering of some friend of Allāh Ta`ālā. One candle is lit by joining it to another candle which is already lit. Ignite your heart by joining it to a heart which is already ignited with the love and recognition of Allāḥ Ta`ālā.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

     

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

     

     

  • How do I gain concentration in Salah?

    Question:

     

    main namaz to mashaallah 5 time ki padhta hun par hazrat usme dil nahi lagtaa hai kabhi kabhi to ye bhi nahi dhyaan rahta ki kitni rakaat padh li hain hazrat 2 saal pahle jamaat me 40 din lagaaye the tab uske baad to kuch dino bahut achchi namaaz padhi gayi lekin ab dil nahi lagta ab jaana possible nahi ho paa raha hai hazrat kya kiya jae jisse namaaz me dil lag sake.

     

     

    Answer:

     

     

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

    As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    Muhtaram Brother

     

     

     

    Translation of the Question:

     

     

     

    Māshā Allāh I perform my five daily ṣalāh. However, I cannot concentrate in my ṣalāh.  Sometimes I do not even recall how many rak`āts I have performed. Two years ago I spent 40 days in the path of Allāh (jamāt). After that for some time I used to performed good ṣalāh, but now I am unable to put my heart in my prayer. It is not possible for me to again in jamāt. What should I do gain concentration in my prayers.

     

     

     

     

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    Māshā Allāh, Allāh Ta`ālā ki tawfīq se āp pānch waqat ke namāz parthe he. Is par Allāh Ta`ālā kā shukr adā karnā chaihe. Koshish ye bhi karnā ke namāz bā jamā`at ho. Jab ādmī namāz jamā`at ke sāth parthā he to 27 kunā ziyādā thawāb miltā he. Aur namāz qubūl hone ke ziyādā imkān he. Kionke agar ek ādmī ke namāz qubūl hojae to uske barkat se Allāh Ta`ālā sāre jamā`at ke namāz qubūl kartā he.

     

     

     

    Namāz mein khushū’ kā ma’nā ye nahi he ke dusre khiyālāt bilkul na āye. Balke maṭlab ye he ke jab dusre khiyāl ajāye to usko tawajjuh na de. Jab ādmī khiyālāt ko tawajjuh ignore karegā to wo ghud ba ghud jalājāegā. Ādmī jab namāz parte he to ek shayṭān jiskā nām khinzab he ho ātā he aur ādmī ko waswasah dilātā he. To Allāh Ta`ālā se is kinzab nāmi shayṭān se panāh mangnā chāihe#. Allāh Ta`ālā ke sāmne ro ro kar du`ā karna ke Allāh Ta`ālā ham sab ko sajdah ki surūr aur munājāt ki lazzat `aṭā farmāe. Ṣaḥābah raḍiyallāh `anhum ke wāqi`āt ko bhi parho. Ye hamāre liye namūne he. Namāz ke pahle apne āp ko dahni ṭor par tayyāt karnā ke mein abhi Rabbe zil Jalāl ki darbār `ālī mein ḥaḍri dedongā. Jis tarah log dunywi badshā ke sāmne adab ke sāth kara hotā he ussi tarah, balke usse ziyādah adab aur iḥtirām ke sāth kara hoje. Namāz mein jin sūraton or du`āe parajātā he iske ma`āni ko yād karne ki khoshish karo. Jab namaz parta ho to us par ghor karo. Aur is kayfiyat se namaz parho ke mein Allāh Ta`ālā se kuftakū kartā hun.

     

     

     

    Agar jamāt ke sāth do bārā nikalnā mumkan na ho to kam az kam maqāmi kām mein lage raho. Iske fawāid shumār se ziyāda he. Namāz ke da’wat aur namāz ko kushu’ ke sāth parne ke da’wat dete raho. Biwi, bacho, dosto hare k ko da’wat dete raho.

     

     

     

    Agar koi qadhā namāz dhimmah mein bāqi he to pūrā karne ki koshish karo. Agar koi qadhā nahin he to ziyādāh se ziyādāh nafl parho.

     

     

     

    Maqāmi `ulamā’ ke sāth bhi waqt guzāro, unse naṣiḥāṣil karo aur uspar `amal karte raho.

     

     

     

    Translation:

     

    Māshā Allāh through the grace of Allāh Ta`ālā you perform your five daily ṣalāh. Be thankful to Allāh Ta`ālā for this bounty. Try to perform your prayers with congregation. When a person performs his prayers with congregation he receives 27 times more reward. There is also a greater chance of his prayers being accepted; as if one person in the congregation prayer is accepted then through its blessings the prayer of the entire congregation is also accepted.

     

     

     

    Concentrating in prayer does not mean that stray thoughts do not come to one at all. Rather, if such thoughts do come then one should not pay any attention to them. When a person ignores such thoughts they will go away on their own. When a person performs his prayers then there is a devil by the name of kinzab who whispers to a person. Therefore, we should seek refuge in Allāh Ta`ālā from khinzab#. We should cry before Allāh Ta`ālā and Him to bestow us with the enjoyment of pratrating before Him and the pleasure of communicating with Him. One should also read the incidents of the honourable companions of Nabi ṣallallāhu `alayhi wasallam. They were examples for us to follow. Before standing in prayer one should mentally prepare one’s self that I am going to stand in the court of Allāh the All Mighty. Just as people stand with respect before a king of this world, with more respect than this one should stand before Allāh Ta`ālā. Those chapters and supplications which are recited in prayer, one should try to learn its meanings and ponder over them whilst praying. Prayer as if you are directly talking to Allāḥ Ta`ālā.

     

     

     

    If you are unable to go out again in the path of Allāḥ Ta`ālā then at least take part in the local community effort. This has innumerable amount of benefits. Continue to call towards prayer and invite to praying with concentration. Continue reminding your spouse, children and friends about prayer.

     

     

     

    If you have any outstanding prayers then complete those. If you do not have any outstanding prayers then perform as much as optional prayers as possible.

     

     

     

    Keep the company of your local scholars. Listen to their advices and practice accordingly.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

     

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

     

     

  • Protect oneself from evil thoughts

    Question:

     

     

    please write some tips to help guard the heart against gaining pleasure from thoughts of opposite sex i.e haram fantasizing.

     

     

     

     

     

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    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    Brother in Islam,

     

     

     

    There are many ways  and stratagems that one can employ to deal with Haraam fantasizing, hereunder are a few of them:

     

     

     

    1. Keep the mind pre-occupied at all times. There is a famous English adage “An idle mind is a devil’s workshop”. Always engage yourself in some activity or the other. Draw up a timetable/schedule in which your entire day is occupied with some task or activity.

     

     

     

    2. Engage in Dhikr when you are not occupied with any work/duty. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) has kept peace and tranquility in his Dhikr.

     

     

     

    Allah Ta’ala beautifully mentions:

     

    [أَلاَ بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ]

     

    “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”

     

     

     

    Dhikr drives away the Shaytaan and attracts the mercy of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala). The Dhikr of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) serves as a polisher of the heart. When one engages in Dhikr often with sincerity, the heart is slowly cleansed of all the filth and dirt which corrodes the heart. Keep a Tasbeeh (rosary) in your pocket and endeavor to make the Dhikr of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) whenever you have any free/spare time.

     

     

     

    3. Read the following Du’aa excessively: “ La hawle wala quwwate illa billah”

     

     

     

    4. If you are married, then the Hadeeth says that whenever a person sees another woman which appeals to him, he should immediately filfull his passion with his wife and if you are not married then Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has advises that such a person should fast because it suppresses a person’s natural desires.

     

     

     

    5. Limit your internet usage to bare necessity and need. Only use the internet when you have to. Sometimes, when surfing the internet, one is exposed to undesirable images and pictures. That has a detrimental effect on the mindset of a person. Refrain from seemingly good websites, but has the potential to wreck havoc on the heart. Some examples  are “Youtube”, “Internet forums” and the like. The first few times maybe easy on the Nafs to refrain from, but slowly Shaytaan works on the Nafs and one begins to pay closer attention to these Haraam pictures and images and all the while, the Nafs enjoys these Haraam pictures and images.

     

     

     

    6. Impose a monetary penalty on the Nafs for every Haraam fantasy. That might be difficult at first, but slowly the Nafs will be tamed by depriving it of the things that it holds dearly.

     

     

     

    7. Imagine that this same woman will one day become frail and weak. She will have wrinkles, untidy hair and no-one will even bother looking at her. Visualize this scene in your heart whenever the beautiful image of a woman appears before the mind.

     

     

     

    8. Protect the eyes from looking at ghayr mahram woman at all times. Looking at ghayr mahram woman is one of the greatest causes of haraam fantasizing. When a person commits Zina of the eyes, the very next step is Zina of the heart. Force yourself to stay away from situations of lust and desire. When a person touches a live wire, he is easily shocked. If one puts butter into fire, it easily melts. If one puts paper into fire, it burns very easily. Similarly, refrain from looking at Haraam woman and the habit of haraam fantasizing will be easily controlled.

     

     

     

    9. Attach yourself to some Shaykh or pious Aalim of your locality. The Suhbat (companionship) of the Shaykh will enlighten the heart and have a beneficial impact on the spiritual state of your heart.

     

     

     

    10. Make Muraqabah (meditation) of death every day before you go to sleep. You may set aside five, ten or fifteen minutes for this. Think about death and how suddenly the visa of life is cancelled within seconds. Imagine that when you die, your family members will be crying and mourning your death, you will then be given Ghusl, enshrouded in the Kafn, Jnazah Salaah will be read and then you will be taken to the graveyard where you will be made to rest into the Qabr, six feet deep and then covered with sand. Who will be there to assist you when Munkar and Nakeer are questioning you?

     

     

     

    Hadhrat Shaykhul Hadeeth  Moulana Muhammed Zakariyya (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) has prescribed the remembrance of  death as an easy way of giving up sins.

     

    We make Du’aa that Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) protect each one of us from following our base and carnal desires. Aameen.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

  • Are good thoughts in Salaah considered as Waswasa?

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    During Salaat, whether Fard or Sunnah, I keep getting waswasa (whispering) from the Shaytan which I do my best to block out.

     

     

     

    However, some of these thoughts that come into my head during Salat [both Fard & Sunnah] are quite good in that a couple of times answers to some of my problems appear during the Salat or sometimes reminders of something I perhaps did during the day that I shouldn’t have done also appear in my mind.

     

     

     

    Is this the shaytan trying to trick me to distract me or are these thoughts actually good?

     

     

     

     

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    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

     As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    Brother in Islam,

     

     

     

    If these good thoughts do not distract one’s attention and concentration in Salaah, then there is no harm in them. Such thoughts are not classified as “Waswasa” in the strict sense. However, if such thoughts distract one’s attention and concentration in Salaah, then one should thwart and block out such thoughts as far as possible. Such thoughts will now be termed as “Waswasa”.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

     

     

  • I am deeply worried about my past sins, am I forgiven?

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    When thinking about the day of reckoning, eventuating to the fear of Allah swt, is it permissible to think about ones past sins with a worry that they might cause one to enter the hellfire (may god save us from it), even though a person has repented, by begging for forgiveness, feeling sorry over it and never returning to it again?

     

     

     

    I ask this because I read somewhere before, that one of the signs of true repentance and its acceptance is that an individual no longer remembers the sin. When asking for forgiveness knowing that Allah swt is all forgiving, should one believe that it WILL be forgiven or should it rather be that it MAY be forgiven, and therefore, there is always that fear that Allah swt has not accepted ones beg for forgiveness?

     

     

     

    I ask all this because I am constantly worried the things I have done in the past. Alhamdulilah Allah swt has guided me, but there is still that worry. It isn’t causing me worry to the point of distress but nevertheless is worrying.

     

     

     

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    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    If you sincerely repented for your wrong doings, be rest assured that Allah is Most Forgiving and you are forgiven.

     

     

     

    The thought of sins committed in the past is not due to the sin not being forgiven. It is a sign of abhorring sin and the fear not to repeat the sin. Such a fear and concern is good and a sign of the acceptance of Tawba. When one becomes a victim of an armed robbery, one fears that it should not happen again. The fear is there. That makes one guard himself against thieves by looking at one’s house and putting on the alarm system.

     

     

     

    Similarly, the Nafs and Shaytaan have attacked us before. We can’t wait for it to happen again. So we guard ourselves from our Nafs, guard our eyes and mouths and other sensitive organs from committing sins. The more the fear for sins, the more we guard ourselves against sins.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

     

     

     

     

  • How do I stop masturbation and Pornography Addiction?

    Question:

     

     

    What does Islam says about men public area shave.? (Is it important to have penis shave.?)

    Is masturbation (release sperms) by hand is allow for a muslim men.?

    To control my emotions, i’ve started watching porn…say something about it….

     

    waiting to hear from you as soon as possible.

     

     

     

    Answer:

     

     

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

     

     

    Muhtaram,

     

     

     

    We apologize for the delayed response.

     

     

     

    Hereunder follows the answer to your questions:

     

     

     

    1. It is Sunnah for a man to shave his pubic hair. This includes the front private part and the surrounding areas.

     

    It is Mustahab (commendable) for one to shave the hair of the hind private parts.[1]

     

    The Fuqahaa (jusrists) have mentioned that one should shave the pubic hair every week and it is virtuous for one to shave one’s pubic hair every Friday, and if not, then every fifteen days, and if not, then at least every forty days otherwise one will be sinful.[2]

     

     

     

    2. According to Shari’ah, it is not permissible for one to masturbate. It is a filthy and immoral act for which one may be severely punished in the Hereafter.

     

     

     

    You state that you have started watching pornography to control your emotions; it should be stated that two wrongs can never make a right. Similarly, leaving one Haraam act to commit another Haraam act can never be justified.

     

     

     

    The solution of your problems do not lie in doing Haraam, make sincere Tawba to Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) and fight your Nafs with resolute courage and a firm determination.

     

     

     

    Whenever the desire to masturbate or watch pornography enters the heart, immediately imagine that your parents or teacher is watching you.

     

     

     

    Take out ten minutes daily and make Muraqabah of death every day before sleeping. Think about the different stages of death from the time a person passes away. Insha’Allah, the inclination for sins will vanish slowly and the inclination for good deeds and the Aakhirah will slowly come into the heart.

     

     

     

    You may read the article on how to control masturbation and pornography addiction on the Dar al-mahmood website.

     

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    • Intentions to enter the path of tasawwuf and Sulook

      Question:

       

      I am interest to take bay’ah to a Shaikh, but I did not find any Shaikh in my area. I make a sin and then I repent, another time I do it again…it makes me stress….how can i change my situation? always do the same sin again and again….sometimes I feel really tired and feel ashamed….I pray, and wear a sunnah clothes but did this same sin again and again….I want to take bay’ah in chisti but it hard for me to find a Shaikh in my area….can you give your opinion and advice mufti sab….

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

      As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      Dear Brother in Islam,

       

       

       

      We commend your enthusiasm and sincere intentions to enter the path of Tasawwuf and Sulook. May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) grant you his Ma’rifat and elevate you to the rank and stage of Ihsan. Ameen.

       

       

       

      Islaah e Nafs (spiritual reformation of the soul) is the objective. Islaah (reformation) is Fardh (compulsory), whereas, Bay’at is Sunnah.

       

       

       

      Our Akabireen (elders) placed tremendous and significant importance to Islaah e Nafs. This is understood from the many incidents and narrations recorded in the books of the Akabireen (elders).

       

       

       

      Hadhrat Mufti Mahmood al- Hasan Gangohi (Rahmatullahi Alayhi), the late grand Mufti of India and spiritual mentor of many people around the World was asked as to why he had chosen Hadhrat Sheikh al- Hadeeth, Moulana Muhammed Zakariyya Saheb (Rahmatullah alayhi) as his Sheikh whereas there were so many other senior Masha’ikh alive at that time, Hadhrat replied that “When I sat in the Majlis (gathering) of Hadhrat Shaykh al-Hadeeth, my faults became more apparent to me. That is why I chose Hadhrat Sheikhul Hadeeth as my Sheikh”.

       

       

       

      We advise you to search for a Sheikh e Kamil with whom you have Munasabah (congeniality) and with whom you feel that your Islaah (spiritual reformation) will be made.

       

       

       

      In the meantime, we advise you to practice on the following daily practices:

       

       

       

      1. Perform the five Fardh (obligatory) Salaahs with Jamaat (congregation).

       

       

       

      2. Read some portion of the Qur’an daily.

       

       

       

      3. Be sensitive to the rights of others at all times.

       

       

       

      4. Read the following Tasbeehaat daily:

       

       

       

      4.1) Durood Shareef (100 times daily)

       

       

       

      4.2) Istighfaar (100times daily)

       

       

       

      4.3) Third Kalimah (100 times daily)

       

       

       

      When reciting the above Tasbeehaat, try as much as possible to focus the mind on the greatness and grandeur of Allah (Ta’ala) and if you can’t do that or find that difficult, then focus the mind on the waves of the ocean, a particular mountain, e.t.c so as to focus your mind on the Qudrat (power) of Allah (Ta’ala).

       

       

       

      5. Abstain from sin as far as possible. I f you do commit as sin, immediately make Tawba (repentance) to Allah (Ta’ala) for committing such a sin. Remember that one of the most significant ways of refraining from sin is by determination and resolute courage.

       

       

       

      We advise you to submit a report of your spiritual condition/state after every ten days so that we may advise you accordingly.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

    • Can tasawwuf be studied through books and texts?

      Question:

       

      I like very much to study the science of tassawwuf from shariah to sunnah with  true meaning.

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

       As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      Dear Brother in Islam,

       

       

       

      We commend you in your sincere intentions to study Tasawwuf. May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) grant you his Wilaayat and Ma’rifat. Aameen.

       

       

       

      The field of Tasawwuf is not a science or field which can be achieved and attained via the medium of books. The texts and manuals of Tasawwuf are meant to serve as guidelines and are not the main objective and crux of Tasawwuf. While one may gain some benefit in studying the texts and manuals of Tasawwuf, the real objective of Islaah e Nafs (spiritual reformation of the soul) will never be attained fully.

       

       

       

      By studying the texts and manuals of Tasawwuf without a qualified Shaykh e Kamil, there is a very great danger that one may become Maghroor (deceived) that one has attained the objective of Tasawwuf whereas one has not attained anything in reality.

       

       

       

      Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) says:

       

       

       

      (يا ايها الذين امنوا اتقوا الله و كونوا مع الصادقين (التوبة

       

       

       

      “Oh you who believe, adopt the fear of Allah and be in the company of the truthful ones.

       

       

      The above verse links the quality of Taqwa with that of the companionship of the truthful ones. This clearly advocates and demonstrates the importance of Suhbat (companionship of the pious). Allah (Ta’ala) has given us the prescription of Suhbat in order to develop Taqwa.

       

      The Sahabah (Radhiyallahu Anhu) were called Sahabah due to their Suhbat (companionship) with Rasullullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam). They could have been described by so many other good qualities that they possessed, but, they were described with the quality of Suhbat. This shows the importance of being in the companionship of the Sheikh e Kaamil.

       

      Hakeemul Ummah, Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) has written that “To sit in the companionship of the pious is Fardh” (Imdaad al – Fatawa, Baab al – Sulook, Vol.5, Pg.139)

       

      We advise one to search for a suitable Sheikh e Kaamil within close proximity as soon as possible so that you can derive maximum benefit from him. The objective is Islaah and one should see how that objective can be best attained.

       

      Hakeemul Ummah, Hadhrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) writes in his book entitled Kamaalaat e Ashrafiyyah that “The main thing is Islaah and always stay in the companionship/suhbat of the Ahlullah/friends of Allah (Ta’ala). (Kamaalaat e Ashrafiyyah, Pg.172, Suhbat e Ahlullah aur us ka fawa’id, Pg.53)

       

       

       

      In the meantime, we advise you to practice on the following daily practices:

       

       

       

      1. Perform the five Fardh Salaahs with Jamaat (congregation).

       

       

       

      2. Read some portion of the Qur’an daily.

       

       

       

      3. Be sensitive to the rights of others at all times.

       

       

       

      4. Read the following Tasbeehaat daily:

       

       

       

      4.1) Durood Shareef (100 times daily)

       

       

       

      4.2) Istighfaar (100times daily)

       

       

       

      4.3) Third Kalimah (100 times daily)

       

       

       

      When reciting the above Tasbeehaat, try as much as possible to focus the mind on the greatness and grandeur of Allah (Ta’ala) and if you can’t do that or find that difficult, then focus the mind on the waves of the ocean, a particular mountain, e.t.c so as to focus your mind on the Qudrat (power) of Allah (Ta’ala).

       

      5. Abstain from sin as far as possible. I f you do commit as sin, immediately make Tawba (repentance) to Allah (Ta’ala) for committing such a sin. Remember that one of the most significant ways of refraining from sin is by determination and resolute courage.

       

       

       

      We advise you to submit a report of your spiritual condition/state after every ten days so that we may advise you accordingly.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

    • I feel my heart is sealed and do not find any inspiration in worship or lectures, what should I do?

      Question:

       

      Assalamualaikum Mufti Saheb, I am really sick spiritually it feels like my heart is sealed. I don’t get inspired by any deeni talks or forms of ibaadat. I try to stay away from sinning. I don’t have any feelings. A long time ago I did do a really bad deed. I need Allah’s mercy to ask Allah for forgiveness from my heart but my heart feels sealed up. Please make dua for me and please advice me on what to do mufti saheb

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

      As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      A mother prohibits her child from going to play outside. The child slips away in the yard and begin enjoying himself playing in the sand and mud. After a while he comes back to his mother with his clothes and body covered up in mud. What will be the mother’s response? Will she leave like that saying I prohibited you from going outside but you did not listen? Or will she pick up the child, bath the child, put cream and powder for the child and dress him in clean clothes and then hug and kiss him?

       

       

       

      Allāh Ta`ālā prohibited us from soiling ourselves in the filth of sin. Due to our negligence we did not take precaution. If we return to Allāh Ta`ālā will He ever reject us from His infinite door of mercy and forgiveness? Allāh Ta`ālā is waiting for His sinful servants like us to return to Him. Every night Allāh Ta`ālā spreads His hand out so that the sinner of the day may repent and every day Allāh Ta`ālā spreads His hands out so that the sinner of the night might turn to Him and repent.

       

       

       

      {قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ (53)} [الزمر: 53]

       

      Say (on My behalf), ―O servants of Mine who have acted recklessly against their own selves, do not despair of Allah‘s mercy. Surely, Allah will forgive all sins. Surely, He is the One who is the Most-Forgiving, the Very-Merciful. [39:53]

       

       

       

      When a child is learning to walk or ride a bicycle many times he falls down. However, he does not remain on the floor. He immediately stands up and continues. If we commit a sin a thousand times, we should stand up and repent a thousand and one times. Be sure that Allāh Ta`ālā will most definitely forgive you. Be confident in the Most wonderful, Merciful, Loving, Kind and Compassionate creator you have. He loves you and waiting for you to come back to Him.

       

       

       

      Dear brother, you might have committed something in the past which you were not supposed to commit, but remember that Allāh Ta`ālā is waiting for you. Never be despondent of His mercy. Turn to Him, repent for the past and make a resolution to do your best for the future. Indeed you should be regretful and cry for the past but never let yourself be bogged down on the past.  Neither concern yourself too much of the future. Focus on the present, for this will be the past of tomorrow and pave the way for the future. Lamenting too much on the past will prevent you from progressing.

       

       

       

      Dear brother, allow me to suggest you to continue doing whatever good you are doing even though who do not feel any enjoyment or you feel as your heart is blocked. The object is the obedience of Allāh Ta`ālā and not any feelings.

       

       

       

      Be punctual on your five daily ṣalāh in the masjid with congregation. Set a time daily to recite the noble Qurān. Even if it just a few minutes. However, be sure to be punctual on your recitation. Keep good company. Try to attend the daily ta’līm and other activities taking place in the masjid. Allocate a time for du`ā. Try to join the tablīghi jamā`ah and join the gathering of some friend of Allāh Ta`ālā. One candle is lit by joining it to another candle which is already lit. Ignite your heart by joining it to a heart which is already ignited with the love and recognition of Allāḥ Ta`ālā.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

       

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

       

       

    • How do I gain concentration in Salah?

      Question:

       

      main namaz to mashaallah 5 time ki padhta hun par hazrat usme dil nahi lagtaa hai kabhi kabhi to ye bhi nahi dhyaan rahta ki kitni rakaat padh li hain hazrat 2 saal pahle jamaat me 40 din lagaaye the tab uske baad to kuch dino bahut achchi namaaz padhi gayi lekin ab dil nahi lagta ab jaana possible nahi ho paa raha hai hazrat kya kiya jae jisse namaaz me dil lag sake.

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

      As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      Muhtaram Brother

       

       

       

      Translation of the Question:

       

       

       

      Māshā Allāh I perform my five daily ṣalāh. However, I cannot concentrate in my ṣalāh.  Sometimes I do not even recall how many rak`āts I have performed. Two years ago I spent 40 days in the path of Allāh (jamāt). After that for some time I used to performed good ṣalāh, but now I am unable to put my heart in my prayer. It is not possible for me to again in jamāt. What should I do gain concentration in my prayers.

       

       

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      Māshā Allāh, Allāh Ta`ālā ki tawfīq se āp pānch waqat ke namāz parthe he. Is par Allāh Ta`ālā kā shukr adā karnā chaihe. Koshish ye bhi karnā ke namāz bā jamā`at ho. Jab ādmī namāz jamā`at ke sāth parthā he to 27 kunā ziyādā thawāb miltā he. Aur namāz qubūl hone ke ziyādā imkān he. Kionke agar ek ādmī ke namāz qubūl hojae to uske barkat se Allāh Ta`ālā sāre jamā`at ke namāz qubūl kartā he.

       

       

       

      Namāz mein khushū’ kā ma’nā ye nahi he ke dusre khiyālāt bilkul na āye. Balke maṭlab ye he ke jab dusre khiyāl ajāye to usko tawajjuh na de. Jab ādmī khiyālāt ko tawajjuh ignore karegā to wo ghud ba ghud jalājāegā. Ādmī jab namāz parte he to ek shayṭān jiskā nām khinzab he ho ātā he aur ādmī ko waswasah dilātā he. To Allāh Ta`ālā se is kinzab nāmi shayṭān se panāh mangnā chāihe#. Allāh Ta`ālā ke sāmne ro ro kar du`ā karna ke Allāh Ta`ālā ham sab ko sajdah ki surūr aur munājāt ki lazzat `aṭā farmāe. Ṣaḥābah raḍiyallāh `anhum ke wāqi`āt ko bhi parho. Ye hamāre liye namūne he. Namāz ke pahle apne āp ko dahni ṭor par tayyāt karnā ke mein abhi Rabbe zil Jalāl ki darbār `ālī mein ḥaḍri dedongā. Jis tarah log dunywi badshā ke sāmne adab ke sāth kara hotā he ussi tarah, balke usse ziyādah adab aur iḥtirām ke sāth kara hoje. Namāz mein jin sūraton or du`āe parajātā he iske ma`āni ko yād karne ki khoshish karo. Jab namaz parta ho to us par ghor karo. Aur is kayfiyat se namaz parho ke mein Allāh Ta`ālā se kuftakū kartā hun.

       

       

       

      Agar jamāt ke sāth do bārā nikalnā mumkan na ho to kam az kam maqāmi kām mein lage raho. Iske fawāid shumār se ziyāda he. Namāz ke da’wat aur namāz ko kushu’ ke sāth parne ke da’wat dete raho. Biwi, bacho, dosto hare k ko da’wat dete raho.

       

       

       

      Agar koi qadhā namāz dhimmah mein bāqi he to pūrā karne ki koshish karo. Agar koi qadhā nahin he to ziyādāh se ziyādāh nafl parho.

       

       

       

      Maqāmi `ulamā’ ke sāth bhi waqt guzāro, unse naṣiḥāṣil karo aur uspar `amal karte raho.

       

       

       

      Translation:

       

      Māshā Allāh through the grace of Allāh Ta`ālā you perform your five daily ṣalāh. Be thankful to Allāh Ta`ālā for this bounty. Try to perform your prayers with congregation. When a person performs his prayers with congregation he receives 27 times more reward. There is also a greater chance of his prayers being accepted; as if one person in the congregation prayer is accepted then through its blessings the prayer of the entire congregation is also accepted.

       

       

       

      Concentrating in prayer does not mean that stray thoughts do not come to one at all. Rather, if such thoughts do come then one should not pay any attention to them. When a person ignores such thoughts they will go away on their own. When a person performs his prayers then there is a devil by the name of kinzab who whispers to a person. Therefore, we should seek refuge in Allāh Ta`ālā from khinzab#. We should cry before Allāh Ta`ālā and Him to bestow us with the enjoyment of pratrating before Him and the pleasure of communicating with Him. One should also read the incidents of the honourable companions of Nabi ṣallallāhu `alayhi wasallam. They were examples for us to follow. Before standing in prayer one should mentally prepare one’s self that I am going to stand in the court of Allāh the All Mighty. Just as people stand with respect before a king of this world, with more respect than this one should stand before Allāh Ta`ālā. Those chapters and supplications which are recited in prayer, one should try to learn its meanings and ponder over them whilst praying. Prayer as if you are directly talking to Allāḥ Ta`ālā.

       

       

       

      If you are unable to go out again in the path of Allāḥ Ta`ālā then at least take part in the local community effort. This has innumerable amount of benefits. Continue to call towards prayer and invite to praying with concentration. Continue reminding your spouse, children and friends about prayer.

       

       

       

      If you have any outstanding prayers then complete those. If you do not have any outstanding prayers then perform as much as optional prayers as possible.

       

       

       

      Keep the company of your local scholars. Listen to their advices and practice accordingly.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

       

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

       

       

    • Protect oneself from evil thoughts

      Question:

       

       

      please write some tips to help guard the heart against gaining pleasure from thoughts of opposite sex i.e haram fantasizing.

       

       

       

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

      As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      Brother in Islam,

       

       

       

      There are many ways  and stratagems that one can employ to deal with Haraam fantasizing, hereunder are a few of them:

       

       

       

      1. Keep the mind pre-occupied at all times. There is a famous English adage “An idle mind is a devil’s workshop”. Always engage yourself in some activity or the other. Draw up a timetable/schedule in which your entire day is occupied with some task or activity.

       

       

       

      2. Engage in Dhikr when you are not occupied with any work/duty. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) has kept peace and tranquility in his Dhikr.

       

       

       

      Allah Ta’ala beautifully mentions:

       

      [أَلاَ بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ]

       

      “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”

       

       

       

      Dhikr drives away the Shaytaan and attracts the mercy of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala). The Dhikr of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) serves as a polisher of the heart. When one engages in Dhikr often with sincerity, the heart is slowly cleansed of all the filth and dirt which corrodes the heart. Keep a Tasbeeh (rosary) in your pocket and endeavor to make the Dhikr of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) whenever you have any free/spare time.

       

       

       

      3. Read the following Du’aa excessively: “ La hawle wala quwwate illa billah”

       

       

       

      4. If you are married, then the Hadeeth says that whenever a person sees another woman which appeals to him, he should immediately filfull his passion with his wife and if you are not married then Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has advises that such a person should fast because it suppresses a person’s natural desires.

       

       

       

      5. Limit your internet usage to bare necessity and need. Only use the internet when you have to. Sometimes, when surfing the internet, one is exposed to undesirable images and pictures. That has a detrimental effect on the mindset of a person. Refrain from seemingly good websites, but has the potential to wreck havoc on the heart. Some examples  are “Youtube”, “Internet forums” and the like. The first few times maybe easy on the Nafs to refrain from, but slowly Shaytaan works on the Nafs and one begins to pay closer attention to these Haraam pictures and images and all the while, the Nafs enjoys these Haraam pictures and images.

       

       

       

      6. Impose a monetary penalty on the Nafs for every Haraam fantasy. That might be difficult at first, but slowly the Nafs will be tamed by depriving it of the things that it holds dearly.

       

       

       

      7. Imagine that this same woman will one day become frail and weak. She will have wrinkles, untidy hair and no-one will even bother looking at her. Visualize this scene in your heart whenever the beautiful image of a woman appears before the mind.

       

       

       

      8. Protect the eyes from looking at ghayr mahram woman at all times. Looking at ghayr mahram woman is one of the greatest causes of haraam fantasizing. When a person commits Zina of the eyes, the very next step is Zina of the heart. Force yourself to stay away from situations of lust and desire. When a person touches a live wire, he is easily shocked. If one puts butter into fire, it easily melts. If one puts paper into fire, it burns very easily. Similarly, refrain from looking at Haraam woman and the habit of haraam fantasizing will be easily controlled.

       

       

       

      9. Attach yourself to some Shaykh or pious Aalim of your locality. The Suhbat (companionship) of the Shaykh will enlighten the heart and have a beneficial impact on the spiritual state of your heart.

       

       

       

      10. Make Muraqabah (meditation) of death every day before you go to sleep. You may set aside five, ten or fifteen minutes for this. Think about death and how suddenly the visa of life is cancelled within seconds. Imagine that when you die, your family members will be crying and mourning your death, you will then be given Ghusl, enshrouded in the Kafn, Jnazah Salaah will be read and then you will be taken to the graveyard where you will be made to rest into the Qabr, six feet deep and then covered with sand. Who will be there to assist you when Munkar and Nakeer are questioning you?

       

       

       

      Hadhrat Shaykhul Hadeeth  Moulana Muhammed Zakariyya (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) has prescribed the remembrance of  death as an easy way of giving up sins.

       

      We make Du’aa that Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) protect each one of us from following our base and carnal desires. Aameen.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

    • Are good thoughts in Salaah considered as Waswasa?

      Question:

       

       

      During Salaat, whether Fard or Sunnah, I keep getting waswasa (whispering) from the Shaytan which I do my best to block out.

       

       

       

      However, some of these thoughts that come into my head during Salat [both Fard & Sunnah] are quite good in that a couple of times answers to some of my problems appear during the Salat or sometimes reminders of something I perhaps did during the day that I shouldn’t have done also appear in my mind.

       

       

       

      Is this the shaytan trying to trick me to distract me or are these thoughts actually good?

       

       

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

       As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      Brother in Islam,

       

       

       

      If these good thoughts do not distract one’s attention and concentration in Salaah, then there is no harm in them. Such thoughts are not classified as “Waswasa” in the strict sense. However, if such thoughts distract one’s attention and concentration in Salaah, then one should thwart and block out such thoughts as far as possible. Such thoughts will now be termed as “Waswasa”.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

       

       

    • I am deeply worried about my past sins, am I forgiven?

      Question:

       

       

      When thinking about the day of reckoning, eventuating to the fear of Allah swt, is it permissible to think about ones past sins with a worry that they might cause one to enter the hellfire (may god save us from it), even though a person has repented, by begging for forgiveness, feeling sorry over it and never returning to it again?

       

       

       

      I ask this because I read somewhere before, that one of the signs of true repentance and its acceptance is that an individual no longer remembers the sin. When asking for forgiveness knowing that Allah swt is all forgiving, should one believe that it WILL be forgiven or should it rather be that it MAY be forgiven, and therefore, there is always that fear that Allah swt has not accepted ones beg for forgiveness?

       

       

       

      I ask all this because I am constantly worried the things I have done in the past. Alhamdulilah Allah swt has guided me, but there is still that worry. It isn’t causing me worry to the point of distress but nevertheless is worrying.

       

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

      As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      If you sincerely repented for your wrong doings, be rest assured that Allah is Most Forgiving and you are forgiven.

       

       

       

      The thought of sins committed in the past is not due to the sin not being forgiven. It is a sign of abhorring sin and the fear not to repeat the sin. Such a fear and concern is good and a sign of the acceptance of Tawba. When one becomes a victim of an armed robbery, one fears that it should not happen again. The fear is there. That makes one guard himself against thieves by looking at one’s house and putting on the alarm system.

       

       

       

      Similarly, the Nafs and Shaytaan have attacked us before. We can’t wait for it to happen again. So we guard ourselves from our Nafs, guard our eyes and mouths and other sensitive organs from committing sins. The more the fear for sins, the more we guard ourselves against sins.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

       

       

       

       

    • How do I stop masturbation and Pornography Addiction?

      Question:

       

       

      What does Islam says about men public area shave.? (Is it important to have penis shave.?)

      Is masturbation (release sperms) by hand is allow for a muslim men.?

      To control my emotions, i’ve started watching porn…say something about it….

       

      waiting to hear from you as soon as possible.

       

       

       

      Answer:

       

       

       

      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

       

      As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

       

       

       

      Muhtaram,

       

       

       

      We apologize for the delayed response.

       

       

       

      Hereunder follows the answer to your questions:

       

       

       

      1. It is Sunnah for a man to shave his pubic hair. This includes the front private part and the surrounding areas.

       

      It is Mustahab (commendable) for one to shave the hair of the hind private parts.[1]

       

      The Fuqahaa (jusrists) have mentioned that one should shave the pubic hair every week and it is virtuous for one to shave one’s pubic hair every Friday, and if not, then every fifteen days, and if not, then at least every forty days otherwise one will be sinful.[2]

       

       

       

      2. According to Shari’ah, it is not permissible for one to masturbate. It is a filthy and immoral act for which one may be severely punished in the Hereafter.

       

       

       

      You state that you have started watching pornography to control your emotions; it should be stated that two wrongs can never make a right. Similarly, leaving one Haraam act to commit another Haraam act can never be justified.

       

       

       

      The solution of your problems do not lie in doing Haraam, make sincere Tawba to Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala) and fight your Nafs with resolute courage and a firm determination.

       

       

       

      Whenever the desire to masturbate or watch pornography enters the heart, immediately imagine that your parents or teacher is watching you.

       

       

       

      Take out ten minutes daily and make Muraqabah of death every day before sleeping. Think about the different stages of death from the time a person passes away. Insha’Allah, the inclination for sins will vanish slowly and the inclination for good deeds and the Aakhirah will slowly come into the heart.

       

       

       

      You may read the article on how to control masturbation and pornography addiction on the Dar al-mahmood website.

       

       

       

      And Allah knows best.

       

       

       

      Mufti Ebrahim Desai

       

      Dar al- Mahmood

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

  • What can I do to secure forgiveness from Allah and keep my Iman high?

    Question:

     

    I ask your advice, I always commit sin and promise Allah I will never do it again, and I will try my best to not do it, but after few days Shaytan gets to me and I can’t help it, I feel so bad all the time I make promise to Allah but I break it, am I sinful is Allah going to be angry with me? I am 15 years old and I try to be good Muslim, somedays I feel my Iman is high and someday it’s so low. Please advise me what can I do to secure forgiveness from Allah and keep my Iman high?

     

    Answer:

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh.

     

    Sister in Islām,

     

    It is common for one to feel that his or her level of practice and strength of īmān are low or below standard. The Shaytān exploits these feelings and attempts to weaken one’s resolve and desensitise his victim to constant sinning or worse. A Muslim must always engage in a continuous struggle with his or her desires, and never allow themselves to give up or become despondent. Allāh Ta‘ālā takes oath by the “self-blaming” (lawwāmah) soul in the Qur’ān (75:2), which is the believer who is conscious of sin and makes every effort to reform his or herself.

     

    Allāh’s mercy is greater than a person’s sins and He is always ready to forgive.

     

    Allāh Ta‘ālā says:

     

    قل يا عبادي الذين أسرفوا على أنفسهم: لا تقبطوا من رحمة الله، إن الله يغفر الذنوب جميعا، إن الله غفور رحيم

     

    “Say (on My behalf), “O servants of Mine who have acted recklessly against their own selves, do not despair of Allāh’s mercy. Surely, Allāh will forgive all sins. Surely, He is the One who is the Most-Forgiving, the Very-Merciful.” (39:53)

     

     

     

    Tawbah (repentance) is necessary from every sin. The Tawbah of a believing man and woman is accepted if it fulfils 3 conditions:

     

    To remove oneself from the sin at present

    To regret having committed the sin

    To make firm resolve never to return to it.

     

     

    We advise you observe the following measures to help you leave sin:

     

    -         Keep the company of pious people from friends and family. Avoid the company of people who do not have consciousness of Dīn.

     

    -         Be sincere in leaving sins by cutting off all avenues to them. For example, if one is tempted by his or her carnal desires, all avenues to sins of this nature must be cut off. This would include not watching television shows and movies, staying away from places where one could be led to temptation and sin or where there is intermingling of sexes, lowering the gaze and so on.

     

    -         Try to keep yourself occupied at all times. It is said an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Keep engaged in good activities like reciting the Qur’ān, reading Islāmic books, holding study sessions with friends and so on.

     

    -         Make a promise to yourself that whenever you commit a sin, you will perform ‘x’ number of optional rak‘ats of salāh or ‘x’ number of optional fasts. This will serve both as a measure against committing sins and an expiation for them. Nabī (sallAllāhu ‘alayhi wasallam) said: “Follow up an evil deed with a good deed, it will erase it.”

     

    -         Make a habit of reciting the following two du‘ās:

     

    اللهم إن مغفرتك أوسع من ذنوبي ورحمتك أرجى عندي من عملي

     

    Allaahumma inna maghfirataka awsa‘u min dhunoobee wa rahmataka arjaa ‘indee min ‘amalee

     

    “O Allāh! Verily, your forgiveness is vaster than my sins, and Your mercy is more hopeful to me than my deeds.”

     

    And:

     

    أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ الَّذِي لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا هُوَ الْحَيّ الْقَيُّوم وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْهِ

     

    Astaghfirullah alladhee laa ilaaha illaa huwal hayyul qayyoom wa atoobu ilayh

     

    “I seek forgiveness of Allāh, the One besides Whom there is no deity, the Ever-Living, the All-Sustaining, and I turn (in repentance) to Him.”

     

     

     

     

    We make du‘ā’ Allāh Ta‘ālā increases you in īmān and ‘amal and grants you complete maghfirah (forgiveness).

     

    And Allah Ta‘ālā Knows Best

     

     

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

     

     Dar al Mahmood

     

  • How Can I Seek Allah’s Forgiveness?

    Question:

     

    I fell in love with a man for the first time of my life few years ago and it didnt take too long for us to get physically attached. Soon we realized the horrible mistake we made and planned to get married as soon as possible. I was ready to get married at that time but he was not, so to accelerate the situation, I helped him financialy to complete his study and get a job. Now that he has got work and things are a bit settled, unfortunately he doesnt seem to interested in getting married now.

     

    May be this is a punishment from Allah which I deserve, but I am just feeling that I dont have anymore patience, no energy to go through this. I cant force him if he wants to step back now, what do I do now? I attempted to suicide, but thats even bigger sin and its not the ultimate solution. this is the only sin I have committed in my knowledge that will lead me to jahannam after my death, what can I do? please help me, I am scared if I die today, I am taking this sin with me and cant concentrate in my salah…is there any specific procedure to follow to seek forgiveness to Allah the most merciful and get rid of this sin?

     

    Answer:

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     

    As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

    Sister in Islam;

     

    Your sense of guilt for the wrong you have committed is highly commendable. It is your Iman and consciousness of accountability to Allah that is of concern to you. This is Tawfeeq and guidance from Allah. Allah wishes to guide you on the straight path and cleanse you from sins. Thank Allah for that.

     

    The back peddling of the man in reference is the consequence of the Haram relationship. Never expect any good to come out of Haram. You are wise enough to realize that.

     

    If the person has expressed he is not interested in marrying you,that is his choice. There is good hidden in that. Do not grieve upon that. Break all contact with him and make Tauba to Allah. Never lose hope in the mercy and forgiveness of Allah. Allah most loving, caring, kind, tolerant, and most affectionate. Love Him. He will love you. Turn to Him. He will guide you. Praise and fear Allah. He will open doors of ease and comfort for you. Be sincere in your Tawba and never doubt being forgiven. Fulfill all your duties to Allah. Perform your five daily Salaah, recite Quran and Zikr daily.

     

    Be patient until Allah opens the way for you.

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

  • My husband works in the company of a woman

    Question:

     

    My husband recently set up a business company with a lady. This involved hours of phone chats, texting, emailing, meetings etc etc. when I realized the extent of their contact, I advised him that he should find out if this arrangement was permissible in Islam. He resisted as he was determined to continue with this company and was worried he may have to discontinue should we find out this was not allowed. Instead, he reduced the contact between himself and this lady to less phone calls (which were possibly 3/4 phone chats per day in the initial setting up of the company) and less meetings. However they have a joint bank account and of course are still in regular contact of some form or other. Please advise if this situation is permissible and should the wife ignore the uncomfortableness she feels with all the contact between the two.

     

    Answer:

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

    As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

    There is no doubt that a man dealing with a woman is a challenge to ones lust and desires. This is detrimental to ones Imaan and deprives one of Barakah and the Rahmat of Allah. In the inquired situation, if there is an alternative for your husband to deal with a male counterpart or you deal with the lady of the Company, then that should be adopted. If there is no alternative and your husband has to deal with the lady, then adopt a procedure in which your uneasiness is addressed. For example, your husband should set a specific time in communicating with the lady and you be there.

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

  • I feel sad or oppressed and I don't know why

    Question:

     

    I embraced Islam few years ago along with my wife. Now I have kids and we as a family are really deeni conscious. I work at office every day, I do salah, avoid sin the most I can, study Arabic language and Quran, go out in Jamaat, and have a nice life, but sometimes I feel sad or oppressed and I don't know why. It changes: it goes from happiness into sadness or anxiety. It's not something really strong, but it affects me internally somehow, as I feel nervous, sad, hopeless, or with a strange sensation hard to express. Then, everything changes and I start feeling good, without any apparent reason. I would like to know what I should do to have it controlled, from an Islamic perspective, as I understand that the solution for all problems is in Islam.

     

    Answer:

     

    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

    As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

     

    It is encouraging to know of your reversion to Islam and your consciousness for the Deen. May Allah keep you steadfast and make your children Huffaaz, Ulama and the coolness of your eyes. Ameen.

     

    The two conditions you refer to is Qabz and Bast. Qabz is a contraction in your feelings through which you feel sad. Bast is an expansion of your feelings through which you feel happy. It is important to understand that in spirituality we focus on our responsibilities rather than our feelings. When one is on a journey, he comes across various sceneries. In some, he feels happy and at others he feels uncomfortable. However, he continues with his journey and does not focus on the various sights. Likewise, our focus is the worship of Allah. The various feelings are like the sights of different sceneries in a journey. Do not make that the focus in our life. If we do that, then over time we will start worshiping our feelings rather than worshiping Allah. This is the plotting of Shaytaan.

     

    When one experiences negative or sad feelings, read La hawla wala quwwata illah billah and focus on ones responsibilities. Do not let negative feelings deter you from your responsibilities. When one experiences happiness, thank Allah again and focus on ones responsibilities. Do not let happy feelings also distract you from your responsibilities.

     

     

    And Allah knows best.

     

    Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

     

    Dar al- Mahmood

     

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